wedding wednesday no. 9 // 6 months until june!

SIX MONTHS, Y’ALL. To be quite honest, the wedding has felt so impossibly far away these past few months, but something about reaching the 6-ish month mark (If you remember, I won’t be sharing the exact date until we get married!) has me in a puddle of excitement. For some reason, reaching six months until our wedding month feels so real.

Andrew and I were in the middle of watching “A Christmas Prince: The Royal Wedding” (clearly my idea) when we received a text from his cute mom.

“6 months until June!!!”

SIX MONTHS, Y’ALL. To be quite honest, the wedding has felt so impossibly far away these past few months, but something about reaching the 6-ish month mark (If you remember, I won’t be sharing the exact date until we get married!) has me in a puddle of excitement. For some reason, reaching six months until our wedding month feels so real.

So for today’s Wedding Wednesday post, I thought I’d share a planning update with y’all! You can read my last one here. I’ve capitalized the items we’ve checked off since my last update!

✓ Church
✓ Date
✓ Photographer
✓ Reception Venue
✓ Band
✓ Hair & Makeup
✓ Honeymoon

✓ DRESS

Well HELLO huge update, am I right? Y’all… I cannot believe I found my dress! I will be sharing so many more details later, but let’s just say it took me so much longer than I anticipated to make a decision. No, you don’t understand. It took FOREVER. I think it’s a mix of being super picky and having so many options here in Dallas, but either way, it was quite the adventure and I can’t wait to spill the full story soon! I will share a fun secret for now… I’m meeting with the designer this Friday to finalize the details and get my dress ordered. Any guesses on what type of style I’ll be wearing?

✓ ATTIRE FOR GROOMSMEN

Unlike my dress hunt, deciding on attire for Andrew and his guys was such an easy decision! While Andrew hasn’t picked his exact ensemble yet, he’s planning on using Mister Tuxedo, a shop right here in Dallas, for him and his guys. Fun fact, this is actually where my father got his tux when he married my mom! :) I can’t wait to share more about this process… perhaps we should do a “tuxedo try-on” post featuring Andrew? Leave a comment if you feel this is a MUST like I do!

✓ BACHELORETTE PARTY

I’m not spilling the details yet, but let me just say I am already counting down the days until my bachelorette partyThe process of putting together and planning it has been a dream. Now,I know that technically the maid of honor is the one who plans the weekend, but my sister Steele is new to the wedding thing and asked if I would weigh in on (AKA help plan) the big details. I was actually so excited to say OF COURSE, because I had a pretty good idea of what I wanted right off the bat. We don’t have all of the details nailed down quite yet, but let’s just say, it’s going to be even better than I could have dreamed… a special team I adore may or may not be involved… :) That’s all I’ll say for now!

✓ FLORIST

Just like the process of finding my wedding dress taking so much longer than expected, the process of deciding on a florist was just as lengthy! I’ll say it again… there are so many incredible options here in Dallas that it can make actually deciding difficult. We met with so many incredible teams, but at the end of the day decided on the one who could deliver exactly what we were looking for within our budget. That was key for us, and I can’t wait to share more about this soon!

✓ ENGAGEMENT SHOOT

Andrew and I finally took our engagement portraits with our photographer John, and let me just say, it was literally one of the most fun evenings of my life. John sent us the full gallery last week, and I literally cried looking through them! I’m selecting all of my favorites to share with y’all here in the next couple of weeks, along with deciding on “the one” we’ll use for our save the date! There are so many that I’m wondering if y’all would be interested in dividing them into two separate posts? We photographed two different looks, so I’m thinking that breaking those into two posts would allow me to share way more with you without getting overwhelming. Let me know your thoughts!

✓ GUEST LIST

Perhaps the hardest task of wedding planning we’ve experienced thus far has been finalizing the guest list. We’re planning on a wedding of about 300 guests, and while that seemed so big initially, it was crazy how quickly those numbers dwindled down when we started putting pen to paper. I’ve literally stayed up at night fretting over hurt feelings, but we have finally come to an official list. Whew. I wouldn’t wish this process on anyone!

✓ PUTTING ENGAGEMENT PARTY DATES ON THE CALENDAR

This afternoon, I’m having my mother and future mother-in-law over to my apartment to finalize wedding shower dates! We’re expecting this to be really tricky to plan because of Andrew’s rotation schedule (he doesn’t get an official schedule until a couple days before he starts his monthly rotation) but I feel so lucky to have the two “mamas” on this that I do. They’re unstoppable! (And fun fact, they met and became friends while planning an engagement party for mutual friends before Andrew and I even got engaged!)

While I definitely feel relieved to have so much checked off of the list, there are still quite a few things that need to get done this month and by early January. The next tasks on my radar?

☐ Officially Ask Bridesmaids

Here’s the thing. Most, if not all, of my bridesmaids already know they’re in the wedding. We’ve either talked about it for years, or it’s naturally come up in recent conversation. I actually called a few of them to check on bachelorette party dates and had to stop myself in the middle and say “Wait, you know you’re a bridesmaid, right?” Between the holiday craziness and being a pretty unorganized person (I like to call it “creative tendencies”), I haven’t “officially” asked. Which I feel awful about! So, this month, I’m going to create a cute “bridesmaid proposal” to send to all of them! Although I’d love to do a big package, it might just be through a heartfelt letter. Those have been the most meaningful “bridesmaid proposals” I’ve ever received, and since time is of the essence, I know I can get them out efficiently! Thoughts?

☐ Register for Wedding Gifts

Let’s just say… Andrew and I have no idea where to begin. But this needs to get done, haha! Any tips on where and what you registered would be greatly appreciated! This is something we’re looking to do this month. (And Andrew is really thrilled about getting to use the little scanner gun. Like, reallyyy thrilled.)

☐ Order & Send Save the Dates

This one is pretty self-explanatory! We just need to select a photo, and the finalize where we’re going to have them made. But let me tell you… easier said than done!

☐ Choose Wedding Cakes

One wedding planning task I’m so excited to undertake… choosing our wedding cakes! And crazy enough, Andrew is excited about this one, too! :) We’ve received a lot of great recommendations from friends and wedding vendors about amazing bakers, but have yet to reach out and schedule appointments. If you have any Dallas wedding cake recommendations, please send them our way!

☐ Finalize Bridesmaid Dresses

Eek! I’m so excited! I’ve decided on my bridesmaid dresses, but haven’t told my girls yet. Once we get a few details finalized, we’ll hopefully get this done here in the next few weeks!

☐ Secure Hotel Block

While Andrew and I don’t predict having a ton of out of town guests since our families are both here in Dallas, we definitely want to secure a hotel block for those that are traveling from farther away!

☐ Reception Rentals

Now that the big details of our reception have been decided, I’m so excited to move into the true “design” process. Part of this, I’ve learned, is bringing in rentals (like chairs, stage fronts, etc) to really make the reception especially beautiful. If you’ve used any rental companies here in Dallas that you just loved, would you let me know? I haven’t even started on this!

It’s fun to look at all we’ve done, but I’ll be honest… it’s a bit overwhelming to look at what still needs to be checked off! I’m just reminding myself that it will all get taken care of, and to really enjoy the process… even if it’s crazy! :) After all, we have an incredible, talented and capable team already assembled and at the end of the day, this whole thing is really about the marriage, not the party!

Before I sign off, I wanted to let you know that if you’re also engaged, be sure to check out my Instagram later today! I’m posting details on a wedding-related giveaway that you don’t want to miss!

Love from Texas,

Kate

P.S. I am constantly getting requests for white dress recommendations, so here are a few new arrivals I’m loving!

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the sudsiest sweatshirt

Friends, meet this Wubby Fleece Pullover! I purchased this gorgeously soft sweatshirt for my trip to Estes Park, Colorado earlier this season and have been cozying up in it ever since.

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JACKET   wubby fleece pullover (order usual size, 35% off)   |   SHOES   new balance 574 sport decon fresh foam sneaker   |   LEGGINGS   zella live in leggings (sold out lululemon, similar linked)   |   SUNGLASSES   black aviator ray bans   |   EARRINGS   pearl studs

‘Tis the season of all things cozy, and in that vein, I’m excited to show you a super-sudsy pullover I’ve been loving all fall long.

Friends, meet this wubby fleece pullover! I purchased this gorgeously soft sweatshirt for my trip to Estes Park, Colorado earlier this season and have been cozying up in it ever since.

You see, not only does it look soft from the outside, the actual lining is made of a silky-soft, stretchy material that feels like your favorite pair of sweatpants… in the form of a jacket! It is seriously one of the most comfortable leisure pieces I own, and that’s saying a lot.

This would make an incredible Christmas gift for any girl on your list… from pre-teen to mother! It’s currently 35% off, making it just under $50, and is in stock in 3 colors in all sizes! I ordered my usual size, a Small, for a perfect, oversized fit.

It’s true what they say, there’s no place like home for the holidays. And in this thing, you’ll never want to leave the house!

Love from Texas,

Kate

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memorable (and easy) christmas gift idea

Photos are some of the most precious and meaningful things I own, and when it comes to giving a gift that is thoughtful, personal and timeless, they’re my go-to. Turns out, on top of all of this, they are also incredibly affordable thanks to Walmart! Today, I’m so excited to be partnering with Walmart Photo in sharing how their prints make beautiful gifts for everyone on your list, and how they have turned iPhone images of my favorite day into pieces I’ll cherish forever!

PHOTOS   1-hour prints from Walmart (various sizes)   |   FRAME   clear acrylic frames   |   FRAME   gold frames   |   FRAME   square matted white frame

The favorite Christmas gifts I’ve ever been given? Those that I’ve kept for years after opening. A pair of gold earrings, a set of dinnerware for my first apartment, and, over the years, photos from my favorite people.

I have a photo from my sister and I in Seaside sitting on my living room coffee table, a snapshot of my parents and I in front of Notre Dame in Paris, and above my couch? A gallery of twelve of my favorite memories hanging in rows, just to name a few!

Photos are some of the most precious and meaningful things I own, and when it comes to giving a gift that is thoughtful, personal and timeless, they’re my go-to. Turns out, on top of all of this, they are also incredibly affordable thanks to Walmart!

Today, I’m so excited to be partnering with Walmart Photo in sharing how their prints make beautiful gifts for everyone on your list, and how they have turned iPhone images of my favorite day into pieces I’ll cherish forever!

This Christmas, I have quite a bit to celebrate because for the first time ever, it involves celebrating with two families instead of one! The year of 2018 has been the most joy-filled and exciting year of my life all thanks to a perfect Sunday morning in September (and, I suppose, the guy who planned it :), and the day I got engaged was my happiest yet!

Let’s be real… I’d be lying if I said I didn’t flip through all of the photos on my phone from time to time. (And by “from time to time” I definitely do not mean daily. Who’d do that?!) So for Christmas this year, I wanted to finally get these photos off of my phone and into beautiful frames that can be enjoyed for years to come! And to make this happen, I took advantage of Walmart’s 1-hour prints to bring my favorite snapshots from this day to life.

If you don’t already, you’ll love how easy the process is of ordering photos through Walmart is! Simply upload your favorite photos, choose what dimension you’d like (did you know you can even get square photos printed in 1 hour?) and choose to pay either online or when you pick up.

Since the prices are so incredible (a 4×6 is $0.09, y’all) I was able to order a huge assortment of photos from our engagement in all different dimensions to mix and match into my favorite frames. Let me just tell you, they all came out beautifully! Plus, many of the sizes are available 1 hour after your order. Talk about convenience!

Speaking of frames, I also found a few gorgeous pieces in which to house the different photos. This acrylic frame (available in 4×6, 5×7 and 8×10) is timeless, minimal and looks beautiful in any setting. Since I simply love the look of a matted square image, this frame was a no-brainer. I also bought a couple of these classic gold frames for some larger shots!

I was thrilled with the end result. It’s amazing how the combination of a special memory and a lovely frame can create a memento you’ll never want to get rid of! And I’m so excited to gift many of the images you see above to my family and future in-laws.

I can’t wait to give my sister the picture we took right when she and my family surprised me for brunch following the proposal. I know she’ll love it! I also ordered and framed a large print of Andrew and his dad from after Andrew popped the question. His dad was so proud and excited… that photo gets me every time! (Can you find it above?)

But if I’m being honest, I’m also keeping more than a few of these for myself. Let me tell you, there’s something so liberating and beautiful about having these photos off of my iPhone and into beautiful frames around my apartment! I find myself pausing and smiling all too often.

With the lovely quality, low price-tag and incredibly convenient process of ordering through Walmart, I am so excited to have beautiful gifts for my in-laws this Christmas as well as special memories to fill my own apartment!

So if you’re looking for a meaningful (and easy) Christmas gift this season, or are simply tired of storing all of your photos on your phone, head to Walmart’s photo page to order your own. Trust me, the end result is a lot of joy and a whole lot of nostalgia.

Love from Texas,

Kate

Than you, Walmart, for sponsoring this post.

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’tis the season // 12 cute tacky christmas sweaters

There are so many fun options this year, so I thought it would be fun to round up some of the best, cute tacky christmas sweaters! Take this Etsy store, for example. It has Christmas sweaters featuring over 50 dog breeds!

fa la la sweater   //   off the shoulder sweater   //   deck yourself sweater   //   pretty in pink sweater //   christmas pup sweater   //   let it snow sweater   //   festive doggies sweater   //   white rudolf sweater   //   merry christmas sweater   //   treat your elf sweater   //   christmas unicorns sweater   //   very shiny nose sweater

Now, we all know I’m one to reach for a sparkly evening gown over a cozy pair of PJs. But when it comes to holiday dressing, there’s one event I love dressing down for. And that, my friends, is the tacky christmas sweater party!

Whether you have one of these already on your calendar or not, it’s always fun (and oh-so-festive) to have one of these silly pieces on hand for the holidays. You never know when the occasion to wear it might strike!

There are so many fun options this year, so I thought it would be fun to round up some of the best, cute tacky christmas sweaters! Take this Etsy store, for example. It has Christmas sweaters featuring over 50 dog breeds!

Let’s be real… I’d wear most of these, especially this cute sweater, out and about! I hope they put a smile on your face today!

Love from Texas,

Kate

P.S. I’m working on a “gift guide for your guy” next week. If you have a recommendation, I’d love to hear in the comments!

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my garmin vivomove hr

WATCH  garmin vivomove hr c/o   |   JACKET   lululemon define jacket (similar less expensive here)   |   LEGGINGS   grey outdoor voices leggings   |   TOP   tri-tone slashback crop   |   SHOES   new balance fresh foam sneakers Over the past few months, I’ve been on the hunt. Once a certain date in June found it’s way onto…

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Over the past few months, I’ve been on the hunt. Once a certain date in June found it’s way onto my calendar (wedding bells, anyone?!) I knew I wanted to kick my health and fitness routine into high gear. I’ve always been a pretty active person, but have never really paid attention to the specifics of my day-to-day activity. And in this effort to really up my game, I wanted something that could make that information accessible to me!

Enter my search for the perfect fitness tracker. Andrew and I looked into, debated and discussed so many options. But here’s what I kept getting stuck on… the look of these things. If I was going to wear something day in and day out, I wanted it to be a peice I loved. Something that fit into my style and didn’t scream “I WORK OUT” at everyone I passed.

So when Garmin reached out to see if I’d be interested in trying their Vivomove HR smartwatch, an incredibly chic smartwatch with a hidden display, I nearly did a backflip! Stylish? Hidden display? Smartwatch?! Literally what I had been looking for… and didn’t realize existed!

I’ve been wearing it non-stop ever since receiving it, and have received so many questions from y’all about it as you’ve seen it pop up in Instagrams and on Instagram Stories. So today, I thought it would be fun to partner with Garmin in sharing why the Vivomove HR has become a crucial component of my daily ensemble, and why I think you’re going to love this thing as much as I do!

Why I Love This Watch

In a nutshell, this beauty (and I do mean beauty) has everything I need… and nothing I don’t! I was so overwhelmed when looking into some smartwatch and fitness tracker models that had endless options, apps and features I didn’t really want or need. At the end of the day, I wasn’t looking for a full computer on my wrist, I just wanted a way to track my activity while staying up to date on important notifications!

Plus, I can and do wear it all the time. I wear it on runs, I wear it in the shower (it’s waterproof), I wear it on walks with my mom, I wear it with cute outfits, I wear it in spin class (I flip the watch face to the inside of my wrist so the display doesn’t activate and distract anyone) and I can even swim in it! And best of all, I’m not sacrificing style at any point. In fact, it comes with two bands, a grey and a pretty, deep blue, so you can switch things up depending on your mood and ensemble!

Really quick, let me run you through a few of the features the Vivomove HR displays right on your wrist.

  • tracks calories burned (resting and active)
  • tracks steps
  • tracks flights of stairs
  • tracks workouts (there’s a walking mode, a running mode, a weight mode and a cardio mode)
  • tracks heart reat
  • monitors stress levels
  • displays weather
  • displays texts, calls, emails and alerts received on your phone
  • controls music playing on your phone

All of these features are accessible with a twist of your wrist, which activates the hidden display, and a swipe of your finger, which shuffles between features. I love that I can see my burned calories at a glance, and peak at my wrist to see who has texted me while in the middle of a meeting instead of pulling out my phone. Plus, the display is incredibly chic. Simple, elegant, white… I love looking at it!

Better yet, the Vivomove HR synchs to an app that displays even more info on your phone. It tracks your sleep, provides distance and pace for walks and runs, and shows you resting calories next to active calories. Here are a few screenshots to give you a feel!

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I am so excited to have the help of this beautiful smartwatch as I count down the months to my wedding. It’s already inspired me to take the stairs more often (who would have thought I’d be so motivated by a goal? haha!) and seeing calories burned after my workouts has been so helpful in setting and reaching goals! I feel so much more aware of my activity on a day-to-day basis, and have been motivated to move more, especially since I spend so much time at my computer. For me, it’s been a game changer!

Y’all, I really can’t recommend the Vivomove HR enough. It fits my lifestyle perfectly, and apart from the incredible insight it offers, it’s just absolutely beautiful on.

(In fact, a friend exclaimed “Wait, is that a smartwatch?!” just the other day when she saw me activate the display. She had no idea!)

Check out more about the Vivomove HR here, and let me know if you have any questions about it in the comments below! This feels like an early Christmas present to me, and would make a perfect one for you, or someone special on your list!

Love from Texas,

Kate

Thank you, Garmin, for sponsoring this post.

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wedding wednesday no. 8 // how i knew andrew was “the one”

I took to Instagram Stories to ask what Wedding Wednesday post you’d like to see today, and let me just say… y’all absolutely came through. There were so many fabulous ideas, in fact, that I created an excel spreadsheet to keep track of them all! One that warmed my heart,…

I took to Instagram Stories to ask what Wedding Wednesday post you’d like to see today, and let me just say… y’all absolutely came through. There were so many fabulous ideas, in fact, that I created an excel spreadsheet to keep track of them all!

One that warmed my heart, and was requested more than a few times, was this:

“How did you know Andrew was “the one?”

So today, I’d love to invite you to grab a cup of coffee, get cozy and read along. We all know by this point that I have a knack for getting a bit long-winded!

Andrew and I walking down the aisle after our best friends got married.

How I Knew Andrew Was “The One”

Let me start off by saying this… unlike the princess movies and, if we’re being honest, most of my favorite teenage fiction novels, I never really had a distinct “moment” where I thought to myself, “It’s him!”

Realizing Andrew was “the one” was more of a process, one that seemed to happen more through a steady chain of continual “me too!”s than one big, defining moment. Know what I mean?

As I look back on it all, there are a few “me too!”s in particular that sealed the deal. I think these will give you a pretty good idea of why I’ve decided I want to spend forever with this kid!

Me Too No. 1 // Faith

Andrew likes to tease me about bringing up faith during our very first conversation. Haha! :) Ever since I was a little girl, I have hoped, prayed, dreamed and at the end of the day knew that if I was ever going to marry someone, he would share the love I have for Jesus. Someone who could encourage me in that love, remind me of it, help me grow in it, and build a life centered on it.

My parents have modeled this so well, and as I’ve seen firsthand the joy a household has when it’s built on the Lord, I’ve known this is something I want for my future marriage and family too!

When Andrew and I met, it didn’t take us long to realize that our faith was “the point” of our lives. What was different about Andrew, though, was his humility with it. The way I saw him actively love others instead of just talking about it. The way we were able to talk about what we’ve struggled with and failed at in our walks instead of pretending to have it all together.

I noticed Andrew’s relationship with Jesus was genuine and sincere. It wasn’t showy, boastful, picture perfect or something he simply talked about in certain settings. He lived it.

Maybe you totally relate, or maybe faith isn’t anywhere on your radar and I sound like a crazy person. :) But either way, this was that one, non-negotiable piece that, the more I got to know, the more I loved. And the more I loved, the more I realized I didn’t want to live without.

And let me tell y’all, being on the same page about this from the get-go has been the sweetest thing. It’s been so fun to dream, chat, plan and pray about the future because, at the end of the day, we have the same objective. There’s no wondering, hoping or fighting about something we don’t match up on. And having that steady foundation has been the easiest, clearest, most important reason why I’ve realized he’s “the one!”

Me Too No. 2 // Fun

Now let’s be real, y’all. No matter how great the guy is and no matter how “on the same page” you are faith-wise (or regarding whatever is most important to you) if it doesn’t click, if you don’t have fun together, it’s not going to work. Or at least, it never would with me!

As silly as it may sound, Andrew and I just had so much fun together from the get-go. While we are pretty different in a lot of ways, we do share the same light-hearted, goofy personality that seems to make everything a bit more entertaining. :) And as we got to know one another, I realized that we genuinely enjoyed the same things, and both loved having fun in the same ways. This “me too” brought an ease to the relationship that I haven’t really experienced before!

For example, Andrew and I are both incredibly close with our families. Our good friends who set us up joke that that’s how they knew we’d be a perfect fit… Andrew and I would always be spending time with our families on college breaks instead of with our friends! (Homebodies, unite!) We both love being at home with our people… to us, that’s a perfect night!

Another “me too”? Our love for spending time out at the ranch. Leaving the city and getting out of town has always been my very favorite way to unwind and enjoy. Turns out, Andrew’s the same way! Our happiest weekends are spent relatively in the middle of nowhere with family,  friends and slim-to-non-cell service. Just a couple of weeks ago we were laughing at the realization that if I hated “ranching it,” we would have never worked out! In fact, one of our favorite things to do together is to watch wildlife at the ranch. (Do I sound old and boring or what?) I’ll take a glass of wine and we will go sit and talk for hours as the sun goes down. Talk about my happy place!

These are just a couple of silly examples, but the list of ways we love having fun together is quite extensive. Things like cooking together, singing show tunes in the car (he’ll kill me for posting that), coffee on his parent’s front porch, watching football (Ok, I’m getting there), exploring new restaurants, fishing, going to church together, seeing new movies in theater, long walks, time with each other’s family, etc seem to always make it on our “agenda.” There are definitely ways in which we are different, and we will always have our own “things,” but it is the most simple yet biggest blessing to, by and large, have fun doing the same things. It makes spending time together so easy and so, you guessed it, fun!

Me Too No. 3 // Family

The saying goes that you don’t just marry the person, you marry the family, too! And one of the things that has me the most excited about marrying Andrew is becoming a part of his.

From what I’ve heard, it’s a pretty rare thing to genuinely both love the other’s family. That is something Andrew and I really lucked out on big time. I couldn’t adore his parents or siblings more, and from what I’ve seen and heard, he feels the same about my parents and sister! Since Andrew and I are each so close with our own families, it would be really hard to end up with someone who didn’t mesh with mine and vice versa.

The other aspect of family that resulted in a “me too” moment? How we were both raised. Our families instilled similar values and priorities in us, and this common ground has been the biggest blessing as we’ve solidified our relationship and have dreamed about starting our own.

The more I got to know and love his family, and the more I saw him do the same with mine, the more I realized how I couldn’t dream up a future family where he wasn’t in it.

Me Too No. 4 // Best Friend

I think it’s safe to say that these first three points have all been pretty objective. Almost like those “checklist” items that you write out about your future husband in 7th grade. (Anyone? Just me?) But the fourth way I “knew” slash know Andrew is “the one” is in the close friendship we’ve formed.

I used to roll my eyes every time I’d see the “I’m getting to marry my best friend!” caption, but I get it now. There’s something so special in not just being “in love” with someone, but in genuinely having them as your best friend… someone who is the same in the good times and in the bad, in the puppy love phase and the “you’re on my last nerve” moment. and who cares about you more than the optics of having a picture perfect relationship.

Andrew has become my best friend. As romantic as he can be (the kid knows how to plan a surprise, y’all), as sappy as I am, and as fun as it is to be in love and to plan a wedding, it’s that friendship that I’m looking forward to developing for a lifetime. It’s our friendship that won’t grow cold when the romance wears off, that friendship that won’t leave when it’s no longer butterflies and fun, and that friendship that, as simple as it sounds, says “I genuinely like you as a person.”

As I realized Andrew was my best friend in the world, and that friendship was the foundation of our relationship and not just butterflies, I realized he was “the one.”

Me Too No. 5 // Selflessness

Well y’all, I finished this post with four “Me Too”s that all started with an “F.” (Your girl loves a theme, what can I say.) But I’m adding this in last-minute because I couldn’t end without saying one thing.

Apart from how much fun we have together, how on-the-same-page we are in terms of faith and how much we love each other’s families, Andrew is one of the most selfless people I know. Y’all, he loves in a way that always puts himself second. And it’s not just with me, I’ve seen it in the way he loves his family and his friends as well.

Apart from any other quality I’ve ever seen in a guy, this is one that has been so obviously life-giving in our relationship. And it’s funny, because when I used to think of the qualities I’d want in a future spouse, it never really ended up on my list. (I’ll confess, that’s probably because “looks like Edward Cullen” and “is a famous country singer” were taking up too much room in my 7th grade diary.)

But noticing how selfless Andrew is has pushed me to see just how selfish I can really be. Andrew thinks of others, no matter who, before himself. And as I got to know and see that this quality is such a part of who he is, I started to realize that, selfishly, I wanted him for myself! :) Because when it comes to deciding to spend a lifetime with someone, a friend who puts other people first seems, quite simply, just about as good as it gets to me.

So y’all. There you have it! It didn’t all happen in one big, introspective moment. Realizing we were each other’s future was something that played out over time. But I will say…. I’ve never been so sure. And I am so thankful for the Lord’s timing, purpose and plan in it all along.

I remember a few years ago in the middle of a hard moment my mom saying to me “Kate, a relationship shouldn’t be constantly, endlessly hard. When it’s right, it should feel pretty easy.”

And with Andrew, it’s just easy. At the end of the day, it just fits. It works. It’s not dramatic or high/low 24/7. It’s a “you and me, no matter what” kinda feeling. As roll-your-eyes-worthy as it is to say, when you know, you know!

And here’s what I do know: The hard times will come as they do with everyone, along with plenty of moments where it certainly doesn’t feel like it’s working. But I am so excited to commit to Andrew for forever. To rejoice in the fun times, to work through the difficult, and to try to prioritize him every single day as we seek to follow the Lord as best we can.

Realizing that’s where my heart is at? That’s how I know Andrew is “the one!”

Love from Texas,

Kate