Friends… here we are! A new year, a new coffee date. Wow. The fact that we’re already two weeks into 2017 seriously makes my head spin. Please tell me I’m not the only one! #slowdowneverything
For those of you who are new around here, “Coffee Date” posts are where I recap the latest happenings on Insta, followed by the latest happenings in my life! It’s a fun time to get real with y’all and catch up over what’s been really going on. So simply scroll below for all the details on my latest Instagrams, and then head to the end of this post for a life recap!
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the coffee date
Today’s coffee date is a slightly different one, as I’m using it to reflect on this past year of 2016 as a whole with y’all. And I’m going to go ahead and let you know that this is definitely one of my more personal (and lengthy) posts. We’re digging in a little deeper than the “highlight list” I put together last week! But my hope is that you walk away from todays catch up knowing more about me than you did before, and that if you’re wrestling with the unknown, you’re not the only one!
Looking back at 2016, I’m thankful for the fun year it was. Moving into my own apartment, forming new relationships, traveling more than I thought I’d get the chance to, getting plugged into a church community… all fun things that I’m so grateful for. But as I sit here and think about the overlying themes of the year, there’s one very honest word that really characterizes my 2016… “Martha.” I walked through the year as a Martha.
I sound like I’ve lost it right?
Let’s back it up a little. Back to senior year of college. (#hookem) Before graduation, I remember older girls advising me that the first few months out of school is a huge transition. I heard a lot of this sort of thing.. “Don’t worry, it’s hard but everyone’s in the same boat trying to figure it out!”
Ok! I’d smile and nod and think to myself, “First few months out is a hard transition. Check. I can handle a little transition”
And they were right! The first few months out of college was definitely a transition. But see, I was prepared! The “next step” was laid out for me and its name was “transition.” Everyone I knew would be walking through this transition too. We were “all be in the same boat,” right?
It turns out what I wasn’t prepared for was the following year, when things stopped being a transition and started to just be real life. Because when things settled out of transition into real life, I realized that for the first time, no one I knew was on the same page anymore.
Think about it this way. In school, there’s always the “next grade,” and you and everyone your age are moving on to that “next” at exactly the same time.
Nowadays, however, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Some friends have decided to stay in school, while others have moved across the world to pursue dreams. Some are still living at home, and others are getting engaged, walking down the aisle and starting families. No one is in the same boat anymore.
And I didn’t realize that was something that bothered me until I began reflecting on 2016, and noticed that I spent so much of the year feeling really unsettled. In fact, if you look back through my coffee dates in 2016, you’ll find a lot of this…
“I didn’t really feel like I got into a routine this month, but now that things are hopefully slowing down I can’t wait to get into a schedule again!”
Do you know what I’m now realizing about those phrases? They were all code for “Everything is up in the air right now and I don’t like it. What I want is for everything in my life to be settled and sure.”
No questions, no doubts, everything perfectly in its place. No more “Am I doing this life thing right?” moments and certainly no more meltdowns. I want to know the next ten steps of my life, along with corresponding dates and times and a detailed description for each thankyaverymuch.
I’m going to be honest with y’all. This past year I was subconsciously a slave to the idea that now that I’ve transitioned out of college, I need to have life figured out. I should have life figured out. I deserve to have life figured out.
And my guess is I’m not the only one. Maybe you’re in a place of the unknown… you don’t know what next year holds or if the city you live in now will be where you’ll want to live forever or if whoever you’re dating is “the one” or if your job is something you can happily commit the next few years to.
The list just seems to go on, doesn’t it?
Worry. Distraction. A total and complete Martha.
Take a second to read this story with me, pulled right out of Luke 10:38-42.
38 Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” 41 But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things,42 but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”
Freeze. Look at Martha. Worry, distraction… is she starting to sound like someone you just read about? (Cough cough… me…) Mary decides to just sit and hang out with Jesus. She forgets the to-do list, the planning, the distractions. She focuses on what’s important. Martha? Different story. She’s so caught up with the things right in front of her that she misses the huge opportunity to just be still and be with the Lord.
Friends, I spent so much of 2016 as Martha. Worried and anxious and troubled about many things, when only one thing is important… my relationship with the One who holds my whole world in His hands. Every worry and every uncertainty I have all settle into peace when I realize He already has my life figured out, so I don’t have to. Instead, I get to rest in Him, trust Him.
So this year, this fresh, bright, shiny 2017, I’m taking a deep breath and I’m deciding to sit at the feet of Jesus. I’m choosing to combat the anxiety and trouble about silly things I don’t have figured out, and instead, grab ahold of rest, joy and thankfulness over right where the Lord has placed me. Right in the midst of the unknowns and questions this stage of life brings.
Hear me say this… “sitting at the feet of Jesus” can sound like a shallow, gimmicky phrase when you’re in the trenches grappling with what the future has in store. But take it from a girl who exhausted herself in the last 365 days trying to run around and figure it all out. There’s a lot more rest in sitting than in scurrying around. And there’s untold fulfillment in that sitting when it’s at the feet of the creator of the universe, who loves you more than you will ever know!
While I’m not lucky enough to know your story personally, I’d venture to guess there are areas in your life that are big question marks. Things you’re not sure of that seem to suck you into worry and distraction. As a girl who’s right there with you, here is my reminder to both of use to breathe.
Because something tells me a time is soon coming when we will not only have a routine, we will have a pretty set picture of what our life will look like for years to come. My challenge for us today is that we resolve together to count these years of the “unknown” as a blessing. To savor these moments and this time for the freedom and flexibility they actually bring!
Goodness, friends. I’ve spent the last two weeks in that mindset, and I can’t tell you how drastically different it looks from last year! So, here’s to 2017. A year of sitting in gratitude and rest in the midst of all the unknowns, and a year of looking a little less like Martha and a little more like Mary!
Love from Texas,